More from the fall-out of The Reset Generation

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Monday, June 4, 2012 8:42 AM

High school coaches often remark that more kids today lack “stick-to-itiveness.” As soon as it gets a little tough, many teens are out and on to the next activity, eventually sticking with nothing. Sticktoitiveness is a very important life skill…one that all teenagers need to learn. There’s more to schooling than academics.

By the time kids become teens they either have commitment skills or they don’t. Sticktoitiveness development begins in childhood, those impressionable years — where kids are easily influenced and often conditioned. The environment kids grow up in today is nothing like the past. Look around. Watch for the ways we condition our kids to give up.

Here’s my top five reasons why kids don’t develop”sticktoitiveness” today.

1. Parents giving in when kids first give up Kids need time to develop competence. No fun without competence. Don’t make quitting easy. Once you give in, they know you are their way out.

2. Too many structured activities at parent’s finger tips It’s good to expose kids to many activities but jumping from one to another can send a negative message — no sense of commitment. They do something for a short time and move on.

3. Too “kid friendly” Sometimes our society can be a little over-sensitive and this ends up removing the challenge for kids. No sense of accomplishment when things are made easy.

4. “Over-trophying” If kids get trophies for just showing up, how does this encourage them to practice? The manifestation of instant gratification begins with parents

5. The reset button. I call it the no-regret button. Giving up is a click away.

High school coaches often remark that more kids today lack “stick-to-itiveness.” As soon as it gets a little tough, many teens are out and on to the next activity, eventually sticking with nothing. Sticktoitiveness is a very important life skill…one that all teenagers need to learn. There’s more to schooling than academics.

By the time kids become teens they either have commitment skills or they don’t. Sticktoitiveness development begins in childhood, those impressionable years — where kids are easily influenced and often conditioned. The environment kids grow up in today is nothing like the past. Look around. Watch for the ways we condition our kids to give up.

Here’s my top five reasons why kids don’t develop”sticktoitiveness” today.

1. Parents giving in when kids first give up Kids need time to develop competence. No fun without competence. Don’t make quitting easy. Once you give in, they know you are their way out.

2. Too many structured activities at parent’s finger tips It’s good to expose kids to many activities but jumping from one to another can send a negative message — no sense of commitment. They do something for a short time and move on.

3. Too “kid friendly” Sometimes our society can be a little over-sensitive and this ends up removing the challenge for kids. No sense of accomplishment when things are made easy.

4. “Over-trophying” If kids get trophies for just showing up, how does this encourage them to practice? The manifestation of instant gratification begins with parents

5. The reset button. I call it the no-regret button. Giving up is a click away.

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